Friendships
Making and keeping friends, I have had a very interesting couple of weeks figuring out my relationships with friends and particularly female ones. I have a number of friends some who I somehow mangaged to keep for years and years and others who exhaust me mentally with their incessant demands at very short acquitance and value just as much as my old friends. Surprisingly, I realise to my chagrin that I do not have male friends that I value. I wonder why this is so? It is surprising that I even collect their business cards and we agree and promise that we will keep in touch. I guess it is time to put my thinking cap on and establish friendships that are long-lasting. Or maybe, I am asking a question here can men and women be friends without the sex-stuff gettting in the way? Answers on a postcard please
However, this is a tribute to all my friends new and old and those I am yet to make thank you for your support, for bringing me down with you when you are down and uplifting me and bringing me cheer too.....
However, this is a tribute to all my friends new and old and those I am yet to make thank you for your support, for bringing me down with you when you are down and uplifting me and bringing me cheer too.....
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A womans freinds are like a chefs set of knives, each one for a different purpose, there's one for filleting fish, the freind who will split hairs while you analyze the good and bad parts or your last date. There's then the freind who is like a parring knife and will question all your beliefs so that you better understand yourself. And then the there's the utility knife, the freind who helps you move and can be repaid with beer and pizza, doesn't shave he's legs! Freinds, life without them would be a desperate bore!
Do you think it is hard to have men friends because of the old sexual tension thingy? I have managed to keep one male friend who is like a big brother or mentor. I am with you about friends. There are those who bring that saying to mind "with friends like these who needs enemies?"
I dont think I can say it better than stunnuh jay has done - I love the knives analogy!
Friendship is something that developes over time & is independent of the wants & needs of companions. I have female friends that I've known for 30 years or more that sex never came in the way of & some of them are lookers! It's how your personality developes. The first lesson is to start a friendship without needing anything, whether it's companionship, comfort or support. The final test of friendship is would you give your life for them? & would they, You? This is the crux.
What is any person without friends, they are the family that we have chosen for ourselves. Dont know what i would do without them. thank you for the reminder how precious friends are.
dearest nyakehu,
as a 30 year-old heterosexual man, who is very close to his two sisters and brother and grew up with many male and female friends, i must sadly say that a friendship between a man and a woman (unless both are gay)is nearly impossible. regardless of how the relationship starts, one party always develops some form of attraction for the other. there are very few exceptions to this, such as life-long (family) friends. this really became apparent after university. just my 2 cents. kindest regards.